For Polycules Who Need More Than a One-Hour Session

Traditional weekly therapy can feel too short when several partners are involved, multiple dynamics need attention, and everyone has something important to say. Polycule intensives are extended sessions designed specifically for triads, quads, relationship anarchy, and larger relationship constellations.

These intensives offer a structured, time-limited space to slow down, truly hear one another, and work through challenges in a way that honors the complexity of consensual non-monogamy (CNM).

What are Therapy Intensives?

Therapy Intensives for Couples—sometimes called Marriage Intensives, Couples Retreats, or Polyamory Therapy Intensives—offer a focused, immersive approach to relationship therapy. They are a short-term, concentrated form of relationship therapy. They are designed to help partners reconnect, address long-standing wounds, and create meaningful change in a significantly shorter period of time.

Unlike traditional weekly sessions, intensives allow you to step out of day-to-day patterns and devote sustained attention to your relationship. These experiences typically take place over 1–3 days, creating space to work deeply and intentionally with the issues that matter most.

During an intensive, you and your partner(s) engage in carefully tailored therapeutic conversations and experiential work, guided in a supportive and confidential environment. Together, we address complex relational challenges directly, with clarity, care, and efficiency.

This concentrated format often leads to faster breakthroughs, deeper insight into relational patterns, and a renewed sense of intimacy, understanding, and connection. Therapy Intensives can accelerate healing and growth in ways that feel both powerful and grounding.

Ever wonder why Couples Therapy Intensives are so effective? Here’s what makes them work:

• Focused, Uninterrupted Time: Extended sessions provide dedicated, distraction-free time with an experienced therapist, allowing for deeper and more meaningful exploration.
• Emotional Depth and Clarity: Intensives create space to work through core emotional challenges, identify underlying patterns, and strengthen understanding, trust, and intimacy.
• Accelerated Change: The concentrated format supports faster breakthroughs and momentum, often leading to profound and lasting transformation.

Who These Intensives Are For

Polycule intensives are designed for multi-partner relationships who are:

• Feeling stuck in recurring conflicts, jealousy loops, or communication breakdowns.
• Navigating new partners joining or leaving the polycule.
• Trying to renegotiate agreements, expectations, or boundaries.
• Balancing family life, work, and multiple relationships under stress.
• Recovering from a rupture, betrayal, or trust injury within the polycule.
• Wanting to deepen connection, clarify roles, and strengthen your “relationship ecosystem.”

This work is explicitly poly/CNM-affirming, kink-affirming, and LGBTQIA+ affirming. Your relationship structure itself is not the problem to be “fixed.” We focus instead on how to help your unique system function in a healthier, more supportive, and sustainable way.

What We Can Work On Together

• Improving communication skills when there are many voices in the room.
• Identify Root Issues
• Clarifying needs, boundaries, and expectations (emotional, sexual, logistical).
• Fostering greater compersion
• Reconnect emotionally and take part in safe, vulnerable conversations
• Heal past wounds
• Build Trust
• Jealousy, insecurity, comparison, and fear of being “replaced.”
• Metamour dynamics, tensions, and allyship
• Navigating hierarchy (or moving away from it), power imbalances, and other complex dynamics
• Revive Passion
• Repairing after ruptures, conflicts, or boundary violations
• Creating or revising polycule agreements and shared values
• Integrating new partners, life transitions, or big decisions
• Experience rapid transformation

What Does a Polycule Intensive Look Like?

Intensives are longer, more immersive sessions than standard weekly therapy. Depending on your needs and size of your polycule, we can design:

• Half-day intensives (e.g., 3–4 hours with breaks).
• Full-day intensives (e.g., 5–6 hours with breaks and a lunch interval).
• Multi-day formats for polycules doing deeper repair or major restructuring.

A typical intensive may include:

• Pre-Intensive Assessment: Brief individual and/or smaller-group meetings and questionnaires to understand each person’s perspective and goals. All Intensives start with a minimum of 3-hour assessment. These are conducted during or prior to the intensive. At the assessment, I meet with all members of a relationship system (couple, family, polycule, etc.) to understand their challenges and gather information about the history of the relationship. During the second part of the assessment, I meet with individuals alone to collect information about each person’s concerns, relationship history, and family history. 
• Opening & Agreements: Clarifying what everyone hopes to get from the day, and setting up safety, pacing, and communication guidelines.
• Mapping the Polycule: Exploring roles, connections, histories, and pressure points within the relationship network.
• Deep-Dive Work: Structured conversations and exercises to unpack key conflicts, misunderstandings, and emotional themes.
• Skill-Building: Practical tools for communication, repair, and ongoing conflict management tailored to your polycule.
• Intensive Therapy & Integration: Targeted treatment and select activities tailored to your relationship's needs combined with follow-up (during or post intensive) designed to help you process, stabilize, and apply the insights gained during an intensive
• Post-Intensive Follow-Up & Next Steps: Specific follow-up plans, agreements, and suggestions for ongoing support.
  

My Approach

My work is grounded in evidence-based couples and family therapy, trauma-informed care, and a collaborative, culturally sensitive approach to sexuality and relationships.

I recognize that polycules are not “just many couples in one room.” They are complex systems with their own rituals, histories, loyalties, and pain points. I work to:

• Hold space for each person while also caring for the health of the whole system.
• Respect the legitimacy of polyamory and CNM as valid relationship orientations, not “phases” or “problems.”
• Attend to intersectional identities (race, gender, disability, class, neurodivergence, etc.).
• Balance emotional depth with clear, practical tools you can use after the intensive ends.

Is a Polycule Intensive Right for You?

Intensives may be a fit if:

• You’ve tried shorter sessions and feel like you’re “just getting started” when time runs out.
• Scheduling everyone weekly feels impossible, but dedicating a block of time is doable.
• Your polycule is facing a specific crisis or decision and needs extra support.
• You want a structured, time-limited container to reset dynamics and create new patterns.

Intensives are not a substitute for crisis intervention, emergency services, or inpatient care. If anyone in your polycule is actively suicidal, in immediate danger, or experiencing severe psychiatric symptoms, we will discuss appropriate higher levels of care and safety planning instead.

Practical Details

Format: Sessions are available online (telehealth) and/or in person, depending on location and logistics.

Length & Structure: We will design the length and format of the intensive together after an initial consultation.

Fees: Intensive sessions are longer, highly focused, and structured to support the unique needs of multi-partner relationships. All fees are transparent and agreed upon in advance. A Good Faith Estimate (GFE) will be provided prior to scheduling.

• 3-Hour Intensive: Weekday: $1,200, Weekend/Evening: $1,600
  • Individual Assessment sessions conducted prior.
• 5-Hour Intensive: Weekday: $2,100, Weekend/Evening: $2,500
• 1 Day, 8 hour program: Weekday: $2,700, Weekend/Evening: $3,200
• 2 Days, 11 hour program: Weekday: $4,000, Weekend/Evening: $4,500
• 3 Days, 14 hour program: Weekday: $5,000, Weekend/Evening: $5,700

Fees reflect the extended session length, pre-intensive preparation, and post-session integration planning. Longer, concierge, or multi-day intensives can be arranged upon request, and pricing will be discussed prior to commitment.

Follow-Up: Many polycules choose a short series of follow-up sessions to support integration and maintain changes over time.

Frequently Asked Questions

How many people can attend?

Polycules come in many shapes and sizes. We’ll discuss who should be present, whether some work is done in smaller configurations (e.g., metamour pairs, specific partner groupings), and how to make sure everyone has room to be heard.

Do we all need to be in the same place?

Intensives can be conducted in person, online, or in a hybrid format. We’ll talk through what’s realistic and what will best support your goals and accessibility needs.

What if some partners have different goals?

That’s common. Part of intensive work is clarifying individual and shared goals, and being honest about where those overlap or diverge. We’ll work collaboratively to find realistic, compassionate next steps.

Do we have to be “out” as poly?

No. Many clients are navigating privacy concerns with family, work, or community. We’ll respect your boundaries around disclosure and talk about how to manage those stressors as part of our work, if relevant.

Are you familiar with kink / queer / neurodivergent dynamics?

Yes. This practice is explicitly kink-affirming and LGBTQIA+ affirming, and I have experience working with clients who are neurodivergent, gender diverse, and navigating multiple intersecting identities. Your full self is welcome.

Next Steps

If you’re interested in a polycule intensive, the first step is a consultation call. We’ll briefly discuss your relationship structure, what you’re hoping to work on, and whether an intensive format is likely to be helpful.

From there, we’ll create a customized plan for your polycule, including length, structure, and focus areas, so you know exactly what to expect.

Your relationships are allowed to be complex, full, and real — not easily summarized in a single box.

If your polycule is ready for deeper, focused support, I would be honored to work with you.

See:

• Couples and Sex Therapy
• Cognitive Behavioral Conjoint Therapy for PTSD
• Relationship Therapy for Individuals
• Relationship Coaching: For You or All of you