No matter where you have been, evidence-based therapies are flexible, valuable, and focus on changing now.
I provide couples/family/relational therapy for adolescents and adults both in the context of their relationships as well as through relationship-focused therapy for individuals who want to improve their interpersonal lives. Our relationships impact our thoughts, our feelings, and our behaviors. Relationships can be supportive, or they can weigh us down. How our relationships impact us can be obvious to us and everyone around us, or they can be insidious and live in the pit of our stomachs-- creeping up on us as feelings we can’t put the right words to. ...and anywhere in between… It can be difficult to understand and connect how these feelings slowly change what we do and who we are. ‘Relational’ therapy with more than one client aims to help improve interactions with each other, achieve relational goals, and cultivate value and meaning together... I believe in using relationship therapy that works. I practice evidence-based therapy, which means I use therapeutic practices that have been studied and supported by empirical research studies.
- Couple Therapy and Therapy with Romantic Partners
- Family Therapy
- Therapy with Friends or Coworkers
- Relationship Therapy for Individuals (just you!)
- Relationship Education
- Relationship Coaching (for just you or you and your partner(s))
- Co-Parenting Coaching
- Premarital Coaching
Relational Services can focus on:
- COMMUNICATION -- Frequent arguments, the same dance, blame for past hurts, communication difficulties
- TRUST -- Difficulty in trusting one another, recovering from betrayal/infidelity
- INTIMACY -- Fear of emotional and physical intimacy, vulnerability
- CONNECTION -- Lack of connection, aloneness in the relationship, struggle finding ways to connect
- SEXUALITY -- Loss of libido, different levels of sexual desire, sexual dissatisfaction, mindful sex
- PASSION -- Lack of passion for one another, loss of sparks, feeling like roommates with one another
- FAMILY -- Disagreements in parenting, finances, and family relationship
- PARENTING -- Expecting a baby, transition to parenthood, co-parenting, blended families
- FAMILY OF ORIGIN -- Unresolved childhood issues impacting the relationship, current family of origin issues, coming out
- OPENESS -- Explore sexuality and new relationship structures, find transcendental experiences, novelty
I'm curious about Ethical Non-Monogamy...
There are many choices available to couples. Ethical non-monogamy (ENM) is a set of values that couples can choose to have in their relationships. If you are interested in this kind of relating, many questions and choices are important for your identity and journey. Ideally, these decisions and how you explore your relationships come from a place of agreement, trust, conflict resolution, boundary (not rule) exploration, and compersion. In therapy, we can help get you there, and we can also repair and promote collaborative, and healing communication.
Through sex-positive therapy, you can have healthy conversations about curiosities, excitement, compersion, and novel peek experiences.
Digital Relationships and Ghosting...In dating, ghosting is when someone ends all contact without explanation — profile unmatched, messages unanswered, calls avoided. It can happen to anyone at any time, no matter how much investment you’ve placed in a potential partner. Are we always looking for someone just a little better than the person we’re chatting with? It takes courage to admit when we are wrong or we’ve knowingly hurt someone. Once you become self-protective at the expense of other people’s feelings it could be hard to stop. Or maybe you just don’t believe it’s possible for relationships to grow and change, or for attraction to deepen as time goes by. Maybe ghosting is better than a handful of empty apologies. The social cues present in traditional breakups are disorientingly absent when you are ghosted or broken up with via text-- you question yourself. You can’t work through what went wrong. Like reactions to traumatic experiences, it can be too easy to draw troubling conclusions that affect your wellbeing; how you think about yourself, others, and the world; and how you approach your next relationship.
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Sexual health is an essential part of overall emotional and physical well-being. But if you’re experiencing a sexual problem, the last thing you probably want to do is talk about it. However, you aren't alone! 43 percent of women and 31 percent of men report some degree of sexual dysfunction.
Sex therapy is a type of psychotherapy that also takes into account possible physical problems. For this reason (among others), sex therapy requires special training. When a couple comes in with a sexual problem, we try to figure out how each of them could be contributing to the issue. We examine what is going on, gradually interpret this in the context of their sexual history/experiences, tease apart cultural/societal influences, and come up with solutions.
Sex therapy utilizes a variety of approaches to treat sexual dysfunction. In addition to the techniques outlined by Masters and Johnson, sex therapy includes cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), emotion-based therapy, and couples communication techniques. It’s important to know that sex therapy sessions do not involve any physical contact or sexual activity. I usually assign “homework”—practical activities that clients are expected to complete in the privacy of their own home.
Trauma-focused Couples TherapyThere are evidence-based couples therapies that navigate interpersonal relationships struggling with trauma (and depression) experienced by one or both partners. I have specific expertise in treating relationship distress related to the impacts of sexual assault, intimate partner violence, discrimination, and combat trauma.
Research suggests that greater satisfaction in your romantic relationship is significantly associated with greater general life satisfaction and even positive physical health outcomes. Distressing relationships are associated with a range of physical, emotional, and psychological problems. Relational therapy can serve as a preventative approach to build resiliency, strength, joy, and commitment for lifelong success.
Relationship therapy is a unique opportunity to invest in the health of your relationship as well as your own wellbeing. Many therapists will state that they provide relationship counseling but often have never had specific training in couples therapy. Couples therapy is very different from individual therapy, even though it can appear to use the same concepts and skills. Choosing a therapist with specific couples/relational training is important. I am very selective about the couples I work with-- focusing on fit and expertise. I take your time and effort very seriously, and I expect each Client I work with to likewise make the same commitment to our sessions.