I provide couples/family/relational therapy for adolescents and adults both in the context of their relationships as well as through relationship-focused therapy for individuals who want to improve their interpersonal lives. Our relationships impact our thoughts, our feelings, and our behaviors. Relationships can be supportive, or they can weigh us down. How our relationships impact us can be obvious to us and everyone around us, or they can be insidious and live in the pit of our stomachs-- creeping up on us as feelings we can’t put the right words to. ...and anywhere in between… It can be difficult to understand and connect how these feelings slowly change what we do and who we are. ‘Relational’ therapy with more than one client aims to help improve interactions with each other, achieve relational goals, and cultivate value and meaning together...
What are your goals? They are different for every relationship. If you and your partner(s) know what they are, wonderful! If identifying these goals is what you are struggling with, I provide a bespoke, safe, and nonjudgmental environment for you and your partner(s) to communicate and build these relationship values together. We collaborate in creating a new way of relating that allows partners to rediscover empathy and resolve troubling patterns of communication and differences in expectations. I help clients feel heard and find shared meaning, understanding, stability, and connection. I help clients break the cycle of blame and separate their past experiences from their hope for their futures together. My clients see timely results through the use of evidence-based approaches in couples therapy, sex therapy, and family systems therapies.
I have specialized expertise working with life transitions, infidelity, trust issues, communication, navigating open relationships, same-gender couples, diverse and non-traditional relationships (i.e., poly, open, swingers, FWBs) and sexuality (i.e., kink, BDSM, fetishes, play), sex therapy, issues with sexual desire and arousal, erectile dysfunction, performance anxiety, intimacy, and the use of pornography in relationships. I also specialize in issues that affect LGBTQIA+ relationships like discrimination, transitioning, exploring sexual orientation, closeted partners, and healing from hurts related to unaccepting support systems.
Additionally, you do not have to attend therapy with someone else in order to improve your relationships. Therapy can help you learn what you want from relationships, strengthen your sense of identity, clarify your expectations/values/boundaries, help you make more authentic and wise decisions about how you cultivate healthy relationships, and improve skills related to communication and conflict management.
Is your relationship a source of support? Can you talk about difficult topics and be vulnerable with your partner(s)? Are there old wounds in your relationship? Do the arguments you are having feel like the same dance, over and over again? Do you feel like you can be your true Self with your Partner(s)? Are you struggling with how to tell your partner(s) something? Are you having the sex you want to be having? Do you feel connected?
Trauma-focused Couples Therapy
There are evidence-based couples therapies that navigate interpersonal relationships struggling with trauma (and depression) experienced by one or both partners. I have specific expertise in treating relationship distress related to the impacts of sexual assault, intimate partner violence, discrimination, and combat trauma.